When most people think of love, they imagine two people who are abundantly happy with each other, spending all of their time together from now until forever.
For the most part, love is associated with long-term commitment – after all, if you love someone, that’s forever, right?
But what if it isn’t?
In modern times, we shouldn’t be focusing on antiquated or outdated thoughts on love and how it works.
At its core, love is intrinsically subjective.
What I define as love may be different for someone else, and vice versa.
Thus, how can we say that one person’s love is better or worse than another?
Today we want to talk about the nature of love and how it can manifest in a variety of different ways.
We want you to expand your thoughts on the subject and recognize that there is never going to be a “one-size-fits-all” solution.
Love is not meant to conform to any one person’s ideals or definition, so it should be interpreted based on how it feels, not whether it checks a particular box.
So, with that in mind, let’s look at the nature of love and how it can shape your life and your relationships.
Not All Love Has to End in Marriage
Love is Personal and Multifaceted
When you use the term love, it can have a multitude of connotations.
When you say “I love you” to your significant other, it means something entirely different than when you say it to your mother, your child, or your pet.
So the question to ask yourself is what does love mean to you?
This emotion is almost impossible to describe, and yet we can all recognize it when it happens.
When we feel love for someone or something, it creates such a strong connection that we have no other way of describing it.
Thus, when you say that you love something, it’s entirely subjective.
I know what it feels like to love a person, but it may be different for you.
You may love an object as much as I love my significant other – both of us recognize the feelings inside of us and we choose to express it in the same way.
Ultimately, the message here should be that love is true for everyone, even though it may be intrinsically different.
Just because I love something that you don’t doesn’t mean that my feelings are unjustified.
Until you can experience it the same way, your thoughts on the matter are irrelevant.
Love Doesn’t Mean Forever
For most people, it’s easy to talk about how you fell in love with something or someone.
You remember the first time that you felt such an intense emotion when spending time with your significant other, or you remember the feelings that took over when you held your child for the first time.
Falling in love is a universal experience, but if we can fall in love, can we fall out of it as well?
Simply put, yes, we can.
Just because we love something today doesn’t mean that we will feel the same way about it tomorrow.
We may love a person for years, but then one day we may realize that those same feelings don’t exist anymore.
Here’s a secret – there’s nothing wrong with that.
For most people, the idea that you can fall out of love seems bizarre or foreign.
In fact, most people who experience this will deny that they were ever in love in the first place.
“It was just a crush.”
“I was caught up in the moment.”
However, that’s not entirely accurate, is it?
When you felt the emotion, it was as real and tangible as anything else, right?
Why is it so hard to believe that you were in love one moment and then you weren’t the next?
Think about it like this – why do you love this person or this thing?
What is it about them that stirs up such strong emotion?
When answering that question, you will likely list off a variety of reasons that make sense to you.
But what if those reasons no longer apply?
Maybe you love your significant other because of the way that he or she makes you feel wanted and needed.
Thus, if that ever changes, wouldn’t it make sense for your feelings to shift as well?
If you don’t get the same emotion from them, then why should you pretend that you’re still in love?
Simply put, your feelings can shift and change over time.
It doesn’t matter what causes it, but when it happens, you should recognize that it’s a natural part of being human.
Just because you’re in love with something or someone doesn’t mean that those feelings will last forever.
Love Takes Many Forms
So, understanding the fundamentals of love and how it can mean different things to different people, what does that mean for our relationships?
Can you love someone as a friend?
Can you love a person for a little while and then not love them?
Can you love someone who doesn’t love you?
Overall, love can take hold of you in a variety of ways.
Just because it’s not permanent doesn’t make the emotion any less valuable or exciting.
Because love is personal and intrinsic to yourself, it doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks.
You know that you’re in love, and that’s all that matters.
Love can be a summer fling.
Love can be a platonic friendship.
Love can be everlasting, or it may have an expiration date.
There are no right answers when it comes to love.
Because of this, it’s imperative that you understand that your feelings can and will change over time.
It’s human nature, and there’s nothing wrong with it.
Love is love, no matter what form it takes.
You might also be interested in How to Know You’re in Love.
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