Is your sex life as satisfying as it should be?
If you’re like most couples, then chances are that you’re not experiencing the most excitement in the bedroom.
It’s okay; it happens to a lot of people.
Fortunately, you can make things better.
If you’re ready to liven things up with your sex life, then there’s no time like the present.
We’ve compiled a few of our top tips for adding some spice to your intimate experiences.
Now’s not the time to be bashful, so let’s begin.
Communicate With Your Partner
First and foremost, don’t try anything new in the bedroom without talking to your partner beforehand.
No matter how you do it, sex is not a one-person show, so you have to make sure that both of you are on board.
When talking to your partner, you want to be open and honest.
What are you missing from your sex life?
What’s the best way to turn you on?
What are some things that you’ve wanted to try?
At first, it may seem a little awkward, but trust us, it will pay off big time in the end.
Overall, sex should be as much about communication as it is about pleasure.
Talking about your sex life will enable you to feel so much better about the level of intimacy you share.
Don’t keep things bottled up – let your partner know what’s going on in your mind (and your pants).
So, with that being said, here are some surefire ways to keep both of you satisfied in bed.
How to Keep Your Partner Satisfied in Bed
Use Other Parts of Your Body
All too often, people tend to focus their attention on one or two parts of their partner’s anatomy.
While that can yield some incredible results, the fact is that sex should be more of a whole-body experience.
When it comes to satisfaction, it helps to remember that arousal can have some profound effects on the body.
Certain areas that may otherwise be somewhat boring outside of sex can turn into certified pleasure centers.
Use your fingers, your hands, and other parts of yourself to explore your partner’s body.
This will allow you to create new and exciting sensations that can add to the whole experience.
Do you only have a few moves that you use?
If so, then they can get old, fast.
While missionary and doggy style have their place in the pantheon of sex positions, they should only serve as an appetizer, not the whole menu.
When experimenting with new moves, this is where communication is going to be critical.
Don’t start moving your partner’s legs and arms around without keeping him or her in the loop.
Also, try to have a good idea of what you’re trying to achieve, rather than just attempting random methods and seeing what works.
Fortunately, with the internet, there is an abundance of information that can illustrate different techniques that will yield the kind of results you want.
Also, keep in mind that not everyone has the same shape.
So certain positions you’ve enjoyed with a past partner may not work physically as well with your new partner.
Don’t let that throw you off.
Roll with it and try something new.
Although the bedroom is the primary love-making location, that doesn’t mean it should be the only place you spend quality time together.
A great way to add some zest to the experience is to start doing it in other parts of the house.
What about getting intimate in the living room or the kitchen?
While we can’t say that every new spot will be a winner, the point is more about the act of experimentation.
Changing locations will force you to be more open and accepting of changes in your routine, which can stimulate more meaningful interactions.
Change the Speed
If you don’t have sex very often, then chances are that you’re not lasting as long as you would like to.
But don’t worry, practice makes perfect.
A great way to improve the experience is to adjust both the frequency and duration of your times together.
Have a few minutes to spare? Why not have a quickie?
Have the whole night together? Try to last as long as possible.
By experimenting with different kinds of sessions together, you can become more attuned to each other’s needs.
Also, when you’re able to do it more often, you can start to incorporate it into your life much more easily.
Once you’ve mastered the art of the quickie, there’s no reason you can’t have sex almost whenever you like.
Explore Each Other’s Fantasies
During your initial discussion with your partner, one of the subjects you should talk about in depth is any fantasies or turn-ons you have.
Again, this conversation can feel a little awkward at first, but it will only serve to strengthen the bond you both share.
Sex is about trust and comfort, and talking about these things will allow you to have both of these things.
Usually, bad sex comes from bad experiences or sexual hang-ups, so being able to share your fantasies will enable both of you to open up more and feel more liberated in bed.
Bottom Line – Change it Up!
What do all of these suggestions have in common?
Your sex life shouldn’t be stuck in a rut.
If it is, then you will only have sex less frequently, and each time will be mildly satisfying at best.
If you’re really in the mood to have better intimacy with your partner, then you have to be open to experimentation.
Find out what works best and keep things interesting by changing your methods whenever you can.
In the end, both of you will love what comes next.
You might also like to read how to turn your girlfriend on.
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