For most of us, our romantic relationships are separate from our friendships. The people that we choose to hang with are rarely the same ones that we become intimate with, but sometimes the two can overlap in unexpected ways.
If you are entering or have the possibility of getting into a serious relationship with your best friend, you might be wondering if it’s a good idea, or if things will change after you take the plunge. While we can’t say with certainty because each couple is different, here are ten reasons why dating your best friend is a huge win.
#1 You’re Comfortable With Each Other
As exciting as dating can be, there is always an introductory phase where you both are feeling out how the other person is. In this stage, you won’t be as open or honest about some things, meaning that there will be some space between you. As friends, you hopefully have already filled in the gaps, meaning you can skip over this phase and enter into the comfortable relationship stage. This makes things so much easier for both of you because you don’t have to impress one another.
#2 You Know Each Other
One of the perils of dating is that so much of our time is spent getting to know one another, and each person has incentive to hide certain aspects of themselves from the other. Here, you should already know the basics and some personal details, which makes your relationship so much easier. You know how the other person is and you can plan accordingly, instead of trying to figure it out as you go.
#3 It’s Easy to Make a Commitment
Because dating your best friend allows you to jump into the comfortable stage, it’s easier than ever to make a commitment to each other. Instead of wondering how long it will last, you should already have a good idea of where your relationship is going. Unless things change drastically once you start being “a couple,” the future should look bright.
#4 Dating Your Best Friend Can Be More Exciting
Some people may think that dating your best friend can be a bit boring because you’ve already done so much together. However, because you are venturing into uncharted territory, the experience can be much more titillating because you are going through it together. Things like your first kiss and your first time in the bedroom can be more fulfilling since it’s something new that you can share.
#5 The Relationship is More Stable
With new love, the feeling of euphoria usually means that we are willing to overlook certain flaws that we may otherwise notice and harp on. As a result, once the excitement wears off you can start to see the negative things about your SO. With your best friend, you should already be aware of any potential issues, and you will be more willing to work through them, meaning that your relationship will be a lot stronger overall.
#6 Meeting Families is Not a Problem
For the most part, best friends should have already met families and parents, which means that the prospect of doing so as a couple should come naturally. Even if you haven’t met the relatives for whatever reason, the idea shouldn’t be so daunting as they should already know about you from your SO talking about you when you were friends.
#7 You’re More Open and Honest
Another potential land mine in a new relationship is that you are afraid to get too attached or open up too quickly. However, what this can do is result in a partnership where you are both on different pages, and that can lead to disaster. Having your best friend as your SO means that you should be more willing to talk about personal things if you haven’t already. The barriers are already down, so it will be easier to do.
#8 Dating Your Best Friend Creates a Deeper Connection
For most lovers, the best feeling is when you and your partner can connect on a more emotional level. As best friends, you have probably already been there for each other and gotten inside one another’s head, meaning that you can go even deeper as a couple. Overall, the more comfortable you are with someone, the more likely you are to create a lasting bond.
#9 It’s Easier to Work Through Problems
No matter how well you get along with your SO, there will be times that you fight and disagree. However, because you have so much history together, those fights won’t (or shouldn’t) feel like you’re pulling apart because you have plenty of things keeping the relationship strong. As a result, the two of you can work through any issues that may come up and make it through as a better couple in the end.
#10 You Have More Trust
Overall, the best part of having your best friend as your SO means that you both should trust each other more deeply than if you were strangers before. Getting into a new relationship means that you are testing each other on a regular basis, but when you’re already best friends, the trust should already run deep. Ultimately, the more trust you have in each other, the better you will be about moving forward, no matter what happens.